Has your husband, partner or anyone else forced you to have sex or forced sexual acts onto you? Have you felt too worried or scared to say no to sex or sexual acts? Sexual assault includes lots of forms of violence, not just being forced into penetrative sex (the legal definition of rape). It can be anything from being forced into sex to being groped in a bar or shouted at in the street. Sexual violence includes any touching that you don’t want or that makes you feel uncomfortable, including when you don’t feel able to say no.
Sexual violence is never your fault, no matter what you were wearing, who you were with, where you went, or how much you had been drinking. The person who commits the assault is always to blame for making the choice to commit assault.
If you are experiencing any unwanted attention that is sexual such as touching, groping, name calling, or sexual comments, you may be experiencing sexual harassment. Sexual Harassment can take place anywhere. It can happen in your workplace, at school or in the street.
Sexual harassment is any unwanted behaviour of a sexual nature and can be perpetrated by people you know such as a partner, colleague or friend, or by a stranger. Sexual harassment can be threatening, and can make you feel very uncomfortable.
Sexual Harassment can be:
Comments about your body, name calling, unwelcome propositions, threats (whether carried out or not) and sexual jokes that you find offensive can all be sexual harassment.
Sexual notes, letters or texts , threatening or sexual e-mails can be sexual harassment.
Unwanted touching, grabbing, rubbing, sexual gestures or threatening staring can be sexual harassment
If you are experiencing sexual harassment at work, you have a legal right under the Sex Discrimination Act to take action. If you feel you have been sacked or forced to resign from your job as a result of harassment, you may also have a claim for unfair dismissal.
Call 999 if a crime is happening now, or if you or someone you know is in immediate danger.
If you think you are experiencing any type of abuse, it is important to remember that it is not your fault and that there is support available.
If you are unsure, go with your instincts, if it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. You may feel alone and that no-one can help you; but many people experience abuse and there are many services that can provide support.
You can speak to your teacher, GP, work colleague or any other trusted professional. Speaking to someone about what you are going through can help you to feel less alone and can support you in understanding your options.
A personal safety plan is a way of helping you to protect yourself. It helps you plan in advance for the possibility of future violence and abuse. It also helps you to think about how you can increase your safety either within the relationship, or if you decide to leave.
An online resource for anyone wanting to know more about specialist sexual violence support services in the South West.
The National Rape Crisis Helpline offers confidential emotional support, information and referral details. The helpline is open between 12:00 - 14:30 and 19:00 - 21:30 every day of the year. Call them on 0808 802 9999.
The Bridge is a Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC), they offer medical care, emotional and psychological support, and practical help to anyone who has been raped or sexually assaulted.
Call them for free and confidential advice on 0117 342 6999, they are open 24/7, 365 days a year.
SARSAS is for anyone who has experienced any sexual violence, at any time in their lives. They offer a help line, one to one support sessions, counselling and e-support.
Call 0808 801 0456 or 0808 801 0464. They are open Monday & Friday: 11am – 2pm, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday: 6pm – 8pm.
SARSAS Support for Older Women - SARSAS support older women who have experienced sexual violence at any time in their life.
SARSAS Learning Disabilities and Autism Project - SARSAS offer a specialist service for survivors of sexual violence and abuse who have a learning disability, communication support needs and/or Autism.
Independent sexual violence advisors are here to help you with the practical and emotional support you need to put your life back together. SafeLink cover the whole of the Avon and Somerset area and work with Women, Men and Children. They have a dedicated worker to support victims with learning disabilities.
Call them on 0333 323 1543 or email Safe.Link@safelinksupport.co.uk
Offers a specialist free counselling and psychotherapy service to women, men and children who have experienced the trauma of sexual abuse or rape at any time in their life.
Call 0117 935 1707, text 07378 905183 or email email@example.com.
Offer a confidential counselling service to men and women over the age of 16 who have experienced sexual abuse or rape. They provide a safe, accepting and supportive environment to talk about the past, enjoy the present and look forward to the future.
Call 0117 908 7712
A confidential and professional counselling and helpline service for women who have been sexually abused or raped.
Call 0345 458 2914 or 0117 916 6461 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Support for any man, boy or non-binary person who has ever experienced unwanted sexual activity.
Call or text 0203 598 3898, or chat online between 12pm – 8pm every day.
The national charity giving free and confidential help to victims of crime, witnesses, their family, friends and anyone else affected across England and Wales.
Call 0845 30 30 900
When sexual harassment is perpetrated by a stranger in a public place, it is often called ‘Street Harassment’. This can be very threatening and scary and many women report experiencing some form of street harassment. Street Harassment is the focus of an international campaign called Hollaback.
Provides information to anyone experiencing sexual harassment at work.
Call 020 7490 0152, the helpline is open Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays between 3pm – 5pm and 6 – 8pm.
This Is Not An Excuse - website with resources for anyone experiencing domestic abuse, rape and sexual assault or child sexual exploitation.
PausePlayStop website – information about consent, including a quiz
SARSAS self help guides – available in five languages, an Easy Read version and guide for supporting a person you care about
Rape Crisis England & Wales – can help you find your local Rape Crisis Centre in England and Wales. The website has lots of information about sexual violence and self-help tools.
Surviving Rape Easy Read – an Easy Read guide from Change People
Sexual Abuse of Girls Easy Read – an Easy Read guide from Change People
Dealing with a Crisis Easy Read - an Easy Read guide from Change People