If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call the police on 999.
How to ask
Sometimes it can be hard to ask if someone is OK. You might be worried about what they say and what happens next. Here are a few things to think about:
Are You OK? is a simple question. Some people might just say “I’m fine,” so you might need to say some more things to see if they really are ok, like “I noticed you hadn’t been yourself recently,” or “it’s been a really difficult time, I wondered how you were getting on?”
The person might need some time- they might not tell you straight away how they are feeling
If it is a friend or relative, try to keep in touch with them- maybe a text message here and there- let them see you are still there and are still thinking about them
Let them know you can see something is not alright and that you are worried
Focus on them, and tell them positive things about themselves
Let them know you’re prepared to listen when they are ready to talk
Let them know that, if they don’t feel comfortable talking to you, there are other people who can help. You could give them the contact details of some support services
Offer to call support or help services with them the first time- it can be a bit scary to do alone
Be prepared for any answer. You might be shocked at what they tell you.
Remember to look after yourself- if they tell you something really upsetting you can contact support services for yourself too, or tell another friend or family member so you don’t have to help people on your own